夸赞孩子要看情况否则可能会产生反作用

2014-01-06 15:57:44来源：网络

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We're told to praise children so they will shine. But a study shows heaping compliments on children with low self-esteem makes them feel under pressure to perform and so they avoid challenges.

　　我们被告知夸奖孩子会让他们表现更加出色。但研究表明过高的赞美会使得那些自信心差的孩子们觉得压力备至从而避免挑战。

　　The study’s authors, from British, Dutch and US universities, looked at how adults praise children and found that while it’s natural for parents to want to praise timid children more, it actually backfires.

　　该研究的作者，来自英国、荷兰和美国大学。他们观察成年人如何夸赞孩子，发现家长会很自然的更多的夸赞那些胆小懦弱的孩子，但事实上却会产生事与愿违的效果。

　　Some 240 boys and girls aged eight to 12 answered questions designed to rate their self-confidence.

　　研究让240名年龄在8到12岁之间的男孩和女孩回答设计好的用来衡量他们自信心的问题。

　　They were asked to copy a painting. The unconfident children were lavished with praise while the confident ones got measured appraisal.

　　They then had to copy more pictures and told some were more difficult.

　　他们被要求临摹一幅画。之后让他们临摹更多的图，告诉他们其中有些很难。

　　The unconfident children who were praised lavishly were more likely to plump for the easy pictures than when they received measured appraisal.

　　那些被大量赞美的不太自信的孩子更可能选择容易的画。

　　But the confident children rose to the challenge of being told they did well.

　　但是自信的孩子在被赞美后，却更愿意接受挑战。

　　In the journal Psychological Science, researcher Eddie Brummelman said: ‘If you tell a child with low self-esteem that they did incredibly well, they may think they always need to do incredibly well.‘They may worry about meeting these high standards and decide not to take on any new challenges.’

　　心理科学杂志的研究员Eddie Brummelman解释道：“当你告诉一个自信心差的孩子他们做的特别棒，他们可能会想他们一直需要做的特别棒。”因此，‘他们可能会担心那些高标准并且决定不接受任何新的挑战。’

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