说分手也要挑日子

2012-03-01 00:00:00来源：可可英语网

　　1. Choose a day to dump your boyfriend. Make sure it is a completely insignificant date. Don't add insult to injury by breaking up with him on his birthday, Valentine's Day or the anniversary of the day his dog died.

甩掉男朋友需要挑日子。不要在特殊的日子里把人家甩了，比如他的生日、情人节、交往周年纪念日或者是他的爱犬死掉的纪念日。

　　2. Keep your distance for at least a week prior to the date you have set. Don't call, message or visit your boyfriend during this time. If he calls you or stops by, tell him you are busy. This gives you time to consider what to say and to be certain you really want to go through with it. Your boyfriend is also likely to sense that something is up, and will (hopefully) start to prepare himself emotionally.

在你选定分手日子之后，这个日期之前至少一个星期，不要跟他太亲密。不要给他打电话、发短信或者是去找他。如果他给你打电话或者来找你，告诉他你很忙。这是给你时间考虑要怎么跟他说以及给你时间确定真的要这么做。这样也会让你男朋友一些暗示，让他有一定的心理准备。

　　3. Meet at a place where you are both comfortable, but one that is not too crowded with people. You don't want him to feel embarrassed or humiliated if he gets choked up or teary. Make sure it is someplace you will be able to leave quickly and easily, just in case he starts to make a scene or things become heated.

找一个让你们俩都觉得比较舒服的地方见面，但是要注意，这里的人不要太多。你不会希望他哽咽或者哭泣的时候因为旁边人太多而尴尬。另外这个地方需要让你容易快速离开，以防万一他反应过度。

　　4. Be honest with your boyfriend about your reasons for wanting to break up. Get right to the point. At the same time, be sensitive and choose your words carefully. It's a good idea to rehearse what you are going to say several times before you meet. Have the conversation while looking in a mirror.

诚实地告诉他你想和他分手的原因。直接开门见山就好，同时说话时候的用词要非常注意。在见面前你最好先对着镜子说几遍练习一下。

　　5. When stating your reasons for breaking up, start your sentences with "I" instead of placing blame. For example, instead of saying "You don't make me happy," you might say, "I'm not happy."

当你再说分手原因的时候，最好用“我怎么怎么样”的句子，而不是责怪。比如说“你让我不开心”就没有“我不开心”的说法要差。

　　6. Wish him the best. Tell him that you truly hope he finds someone who will love him the way he deserves to be loved—then reiterate that it's just not you. Don't say anything that might give him false hope, such as "I'll still be here if you need someone to talk to."

祝福他。告诉他你真心希望他能找到更好的、更直的他爱的人——而这个人不是你。不要给他任何假的希望，比如“如果想找人聊聊可以找我”之类的话。

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